"What has seeped into our very bones is the idea that independence is harmful. This message is passed on relentlessly by the media: just think how many articles have been written over the last twenty years, women who terrify men or who remain single, as punishment for their ambition, or eccentricity. As if being widowed, abandoned, alone in time of war, or suffering from violence were recent inventions. We have always had to manage by ourselves. "
Virgin Despentes, King Kong Theory
patriarchally approved reasons to be a single woman vs. unacceptable forms of independence.